Instead our focus should be what’s on the inside of ourselves and others, strengthening our “core” changes who we are on the outside. Same way that you can tell who a person is by their “fruit”. But also keep in mind that God is the one judging, and who am I to say what the heart of another is. My job is to be an example and make sure what is in me is love for God and others, caring for orphans and widows (less fortunate). Living this way will minister more than any words can. Others will notice your strength, when they struggle they’ll come to you for advice. Read Ecclesiastes…I just found a scripture that says drink your wine and enjoy life, loving your wife…

There’s so much more to explain this, this is just an overview!